Honestly, I don’t think it’s that different from how I parented when they were young . Each child is different and how I discipline depends very much on the child and the situation. For example, if I have a child who is known to be sneaky, and they try to cover up a situation the punishment might be Sterner than if I had a kid that just had a brain fart moment and innocently didn’t come to me first with the situation.
I also have learned to process my emotions first when dealing with situations I try not to act out of anger or frustration or let my emotions dictate my actions. I remove myself from them sometimes acknowledging if I’m upset or frustrated with them while not talking to them further in that moment.
My youngest is on the spectrum and I honestly feel like she’s giving me the most valuable insight. There are times when she just cannot process what I’m saying so it’s been very helpful for us to acknowledge that there’s a problem and then both of us step away for a period of an hour or so after which gives her time to self regulate me time to self regulate, maybe a little more perspective on the situation and then we go from there. Jumping all over them in a moment of frustration is not only unhelpful, but can be very damaging to your relationship as well.
