Thank u so much for the kind supportive advice.. the people pleasing is my husband of 27 yes and my 16 year old granddaughter we raised and just a couple of years ago we lost her mother..it has broken 💔 😢 😔 my family apart 💔 😢 I sometimes just finding myself wanting to change and it seems like everything and everyone in my world never stops..I'm so tired 😫 😩 and I can't even find away to start doing as u suggests...I truly want to but for some reason am always feeling DEFEATED 💔 please help me find the starting point 👉 👈 👇 I need someone to help me me !!! So please keep the advice coming and maybe someday it will actually CLICK. LIGHTBULB...moments 🧐🧐again Thank u 🙏

Dont put yourself in a box, in a corner in a dark room. That's not where you belong. & it's okay to want ppl to like you or get validation for things you do. But your validation shouldn't be sought out from external sources. Bc I promise if you make yourself happy, others will complain. If you try to make others happy, others will complain. So like yourself. Stop seeking external validation from others & go within. How are these ppl helping you get to your best version of yourself if you've put yourself in a box in a corner in a dark room. Again... that's not where you belong. Do these ppl try like you do to make you happy???

Hi Melissa, sorry to hear you’re going through a hard time. So here’s the thing; you can never please everyone, all of the time! That’s life. But why are you trying to please everyone? Sometimes, when we’re trying to please others, we are avoiding doing what we need to do for ourselves. So why not take some time to figure out how to meet your own needs and give yourself some TLC & a big hug. Learn to love yourself then when we are doing what we need for ourselves, we don’t search to please others as much. Sending you a big hug. You’ve got this and you are good enough 🫶