Hi Amy, I don’t had kids so I can’t answer that but I have been on the other side when I felt that way with my mom (but never said it!) it must be tough receiving that kind of message from your child. They are evidently very hurt at the minute and are lashing out. I think, that at a time when I felt that way, I would have wanted my voice & feelings to be acknowledged & not dismissed. You could reply with something like ‘im sorry to see you feel this way, hurting you is not my intention, let’s talk about this.’ I believe the issue here is not about who is wrong or right but about reopening channels of safe communication with each other so you can figure this out and hopefully move through. It’s important to genuinely listen to what you each have to say. Often the reasons for this kind of behavior are deeper than surface level. I hope you both find a way through this 🙏