actually at this age people know exactly what they're doing. take it personally. they know the words they choose, the actions they take, and the silence they give. they know when they are ignoring you, when they are lying, when they are being careless with your feelings. it is not a mistake, it is a choice. people are not children anymore who don't understand the weight of their actions. they are fully aware when they hurt you, when they disrespect you, or when they cross your boundaries. so take it personally, because it is personal. it shows you who they are, what they value, and how much you matter to them. stop making excuses for people who already showed you what place you hold in their life.