i'm a big fan of reciprocation. you reach out, i reach out. you're distant, i'm distant. you check on me, i check on you. you spoil me, i'm gonna spoil you. i deal with people exactly how they deal with me. nothing more, nothing less. because i used to give too much to people who gave very little back. i used to put in all the effort and end up feeling disappointed. now, i believe relationships should go both ways. i don't expect perfection, but i do value effort. if you're willing to show up for me, i'll gladly show up for you too.