Telling them to change over and over won't work because they never planned to. All they notice is that you're still there, so they take full advantage quietly. They don't see your pain; they only see your patience as permission to continue. So shock them a little - leave the situation before they expect it from you. Them refusing to change while enjoying your suffering is your loudest, clearest second sign. The first sign was you begging for basic respect while they acted unbothered. Stop wasting your energy waiting for improvement that they never intended to offer anyway. They don't want to change because your tolerance makes their life far too comfortable. Maybe the only real change happens when you walk away and choose yourself.