let them lose you. let them feel your absence. let them see what it's like when you stop showing up, when your presence is no longer there to comfort and understand them. let them notice how different things feel without you, how quiet it gets when you're no longer giving the same effort. let them wonder why you pulled away, even though they were the one who pushed you to that point. and while they're figuring that out, choose yourself. choose your peace, your growth, your healing. because the people who truly value you will never have to lose you before they realize your worth.