you're not really in love with her if her silence after a fight doesn't bother you, if it doesn't make you want to fix things. you're not in love with her if seeing her cry doesn't make your heart ache, if it doesn't make you want to hold her and make her feel safe again. you're not in love with her if her sadness doesn't touch you, if you still care more about being right than about her feelings. you're not in love with her if you can watch her struggle and still choose to stay quiet instead of comforting her. real love makes you care even when you're angry. it makes you want to make things better even when you feel distant. so if you can stay calm while she's hurting, then you were never truly in love with her.