I came across a quote that said: "My life got better when I realized I didn't have to be kind. Kind got me used, stressed out and disrespected. I'm not kind. I'm a good person. There's a difference. And I think a healthier way to frame this is: My life got better when I learned to balance kindness with self-respect. Being considerate is important, but so are healthy boundaries. I strive to be good-treating others well while also honouring my own needs and values.