Sometimes the only reason why we hold on to people, even after they're gone, is because we are stuck on the idea of what "could have been' if we'd just stayed together. We paint this beautiful picture of how our relationship could have blossomed, had we just worked on a little —and this is completely self-destructive. You're fixating on something that never happened, just to hold on to someone who is long gone. The truth is —you don't know how your relationship may have turned out because you two did not live it out. Instead, all you have is an idea of how your relationship may have been without actually experiencing it. Sometimes you can't let go of someone because of your belief about how good' you would have been together, but you don't know that for sure. Things could have gone well, yes, but they could have also gone badly. And maybe this was the best possible outcome. Maybe you two not working out is the most beautiful thing that happened to both of you and that is the reality. Rather than thinking about what could have been', open your eyes to what is and the truth is that you both didn't stay together because it wasn't meant to be. And I hope you can accept this without letting it break you.