The only guilt you should feel about setting boundaries is that you didn't do it sooner. And the people who are unhappy about it? They are the exact reason you should've drawn those boundaries earlier. The people who complain the loudest are usually the ones who benefited the most. Because the moment people can't exploit you anymore, they suddenly discover the word selfish Don't waste your time explaining anything to people who only understand convenience. Don't explain, don't justify -just accept it. Tell them you've been stupid for so long, you fully deserve to be "selfish" now. You spent years being stupidly available, patient, and painfully understanding. Now you're done being the easy option just because they expected you to tolerate everything. If choosing peace makes you selfish to them, then it's the best compliment you'll ever get.