Sometimes you get what you want and it changes your life. Sometimes you don't and that changes you in a different but equally important way. Truth is, every outcome gives you something. When it works out you gain progress, momentum and belief in what's possible. When it doesn't you gain resilience, humility and clarity on what actually matters. The wins build your confidence and the setbacks build your character. And both are necessary. Not getting what you want doesn't mean you failed. It means life had a better teacher in mind. And this is the essence of "pronoia" - the belief that the universe is secretly conspiring in your favour. That life is working for you and that something good is always going to happen.