Some people would rather carry their life on their own than share it with someone who makes their body feel on edge. Peace becomes more valuable than having someone beside you. You learn that constant tension is not chemistry, and anxiety is not a sign of deep connection. If being with someone makes you feel small, unsettled, or afraid to relax, that is not love. There comes a point where calm matters more than company. Where you would rather sleep alone than lie next to someone who disrupts your sense of safety. The right relationship should not feel like survival. It should feel steady. It should feel safe. And it should allow your nervous system to rest instead of brace for impact.