And when you are healed, you see life from a real perspective. That means you see it as it truly is-not through your fears, your emotions, or your need for validation from someone else. From that place, it becomes easier to say what you want to say and to walk away when needed. Being healed gives you answers your unhealed self couldn't easily give. The unhealed version of you sees life from a place of survival, believing you have to give, overgive, or accept the bare minimum because that's what you think you deserve.