You're not in love with her, if her silence after a fight doesn't bother you or make you want to fix things. You're not in love with her if seeing her cry doesn't make your heart hurt or make you want to hold her and remind her that you still care. You're not in love with her if her sadness doesn't affect you, if proving your point matters more than protecting her feelings. Real love makes you care even when you're angry or upset. It makes you want to comfort her, understand her, and make things right instead of staying distant. Because when you truly love someone, you can't stay calm while they're hurting. Their pain reaches your heart too, and you naturally want to make them feel safe, loved, and understood again.