We all have that one person who gets under our skin. Maybe it's the overreactive coworker. Maybe it's the sticky friend. Maybe it's the partner who shuts down. The question is, why do they trigger us so much? Well, triggers aren't random. Sometimes, they're mirrors. The angry person reflects how much we bury our own anger. The clingy one shows how much we avoid closeness. The avoidant one reveals how we neglect ourselves. But.. that's not the whole picture. Why does this actually happen the way it is happening? Why do we feel such a strong reaction in the first place? Well, it's because our body remembers. Triggers don't only mirror us; they also activate old wounds. A raised voice might feel like danger, not because you struggle with anger, but because your brain learned, long ago, that anger wasn't safe. In that case, your nervous system isn't mirroring —it's remembering. It's sounding the alarm. So then, what do you do? Maybe you should ask yourself: Is this irritation showing me something I deny in myself? Or is this fear reminding me of a past wound? Either way, the trigger is just a signal. Not a punishment. The trigger is just a guide. The real shift happens when you stop asking, "Why are they like this?" and start asking, , "What is this showing me about me?" Because, in both cases, triggers aren't accusations. They're opportunities. They invite us to regulate our nervous system, face the root of the wound, and reclaim balance.