After years of being pushed, disrespected, or provoked, you finally reach a breaking point and react, maybe with anger, maybe with words you would not normally say, and the moment you snap the abuser flips the story, paints themselves as the victim, and uses that one reaction to hide the long history of their behavior, so understand the trap, some people provoke you on purpose hoping you will explode, because your reaction becomes their excuse, which is why the real power is staying aware, controlling your response, or sometimes choosing silence and walking away.