One of the best things my therapist ever told me was: When a person grows up feeling unseen, they learn to love by over-giving. They pour into everyone else, hoping that one day someone will finally pour back into them. So they become the caretaker, the fixer, the one who shows up when no one shows up for them. And the hardest part? Deep down, they're not trying to be strong, they're just waiting for someone to do for them what they've spent their whole life doing for everyone else.