uncomfortable truths that will set you free •you can't be responsible for someone else's happiness •you are responsible for the energy you allow into your life • you can't control other people's behavior •you can only control your response to their behavior • it's not your job to convince someone to treat you well • understanding someone doesn't mean tolerating their harm •awareness without action is another way to stay stuck •you can love someone and still choose less access • not engaging can be a decision to protect your peace •peace often requires letting go of being understood • change doesn't happen unless you make it •sometimes the lesson is simply: This is Who They Are