losing a man who never planned dates, never bought you flowers, gave you constant anxiety and did nothing for you is not a loss. the real loss is losing yourself trying to love someone who never treated you right. you kept hoping he would change and finally give the same love you gave him. but love shouldn't make you feel sad, worried, or alone all the time. the right person will make time for you, care about your feelings, and make you feel loved in simple ways. sometimes leaving is not something to cry over. sometimes it is what saves your peace. it's better to be alone than stay with someone who keeps hurting you and giving you less than what you deserve.