We spend so much time and energy trying to control other people and get emotionally affected trying to decipher their behaviors, failing to realize we have no control over them. We were not put on this earth to control other people's actions. It's not your job to analyze people's behaviors and jump into conclusions about why they're doing what they're doing. The truth is, you'll never truly know. This is where the "let them theory" comes in. A situationship doesn't wanna commit? Let them. Someone is excluding you? Let them. Someone ghosted you? Let them. Not only is this so emotionally freeing, but it also allows people to show their true colors, and that Is invaluable. You are then able to make better choices about the people you want to keep in your life.