Found out I was autistic last year after a breakup where my ex partner had ridiculed me for my autistic traits. I now now that traits of mine my family used to label as making me a monster are just autism. When I found out I needed some me time to process it. Grieve myself and the whole identity I had built around me by people who thought I was made wrong somehow. In that time, a friend who knew... Or should I say "friend" called me selfish for taking time. When I felt ok enough to talk I explained and since then every time she's spoken to me it's just been asking for favours. This isn't an uncommon occurance. I feel more like a service than a person.