They are not confused about what you're saying. They hear you clearly. They know you're hurt, they know something feels off, they know you're asking for care. The problem is not that they don't understand. The problem is that changing would require them to give up their convenience, and they would rather keep things easy for themselves than uncomfortable for you. That is not a communication issue. It is a values issue. It is the quiet decision to protect their own comfort instead of protecting the relationship. And once you see that, the argument stops being about words and starts being about priority. Because when someone truly values you, your feelings are not a debate—they are something they choose to handle with care.