I READ THIS ONLINE & NOW I CAN'T STOP THINKING ABOUT I... The way you treat your parents as an adult often reflects how they treated you as a child. If they gave you love, safety, and understanding, that's usually what you return. But if they gave you pain, neglect, or emotional wounds, your distance isn't disrespect — it's protection. Sometimes it's not about holding grudges... it's about healing from what once broke you. Because how we show up now is shaped by how we were shown love then.