becoming someone I can rely on For a long time, I kept looking for safety in other people. In their reassurance, their consistency, their ability to choose me correctly. I thought peace would arrive once I finally found people who knew how to love me well. But somewhere along the way, I realized how unstable life feels when your sense of security depends entirely on what other people decide to give you emotionally. So I started building trust with myself instead. Quietly. In small ways. I started listening when something felt wrong instead of convincing myself to tolerate it. I stopped forcing myself to stay connected to things that were clearly draining me. I became more honest about what hurts me, what exhausts me, what I can no longer carry just because I'm afraid of disappointing people. I think becoming someone you can rely on has less to do with confidence and more to do with self -abandonment ending. It's knowing that even when life becomes uncertain, you will not betray your own needs just to feel loved. It's trusting yourself enough to leave what no longer feels healthy, even when part of you still wants it to work. These days, I still have difficult moments. I still overthink. I still get emotionally tired sometimes. But there is comfort in knowing I no longer disappear inside my relationships, my responsibilities, or other people's expectations. I stay with myself now. And after everything, I think that's the kind of trust that matters most.