Pay close attention to the way people show up in the details. How do they react when something bad happens? How do they behave when something good happens? How do they treat their friends, their family, their service workers, their community members, their pets? How do they act toward the people that test their patience? How do they interact through moments of inconvenience and disagreement? How do they speak to themselves through seasons of failure and setback? The thing is, anyone can do the grand gestures. It's not as hard as you think. We grow up watching romance films and listening to love songs, and through that, we subconsciously learn all the right things to say and do to make someone fall in love with you. But the details aren't so easily framed, they can only be forged to such an extent. The details reflect their character, the details highlight the things that really matter, the things that really define who someone is. The details are who you will marry, who will raise your kids, who will support you throughout your life. So please, pay close attention to the details, because the details define the truth.