As you heal, things become clear: attention isn't love, attachment isn't connection, and codependency isn't support. You begin to realize that disagreements aren't-attacks, lacking boundaries isn't empathy, and no amount of external validation can replace self-love. Trauma bonding isn't healing, ignoring your needs işn't a strength, people-pleasing isn't kindness, staying in toxic situations isn't loyalty, numbing your emotions isn't coping, and suppressing your emotions or staying silent doesn't bring peace.