the right man will change his habits that hurt you. he will never say, "that's just how i am," or make you feel like your feelings are too much. instead, he will listen and try to understand why something upsets you. when he knows something causes you pain, he will make an effort to fix it. he will pay attention to the little things that make you uncomfortable and slowly do better each day. not because you are forcing him, but because your peace matters to him. and he will change not because you asked him to, but because he doesn't want to lose someone he loves.