i think my biggest red flag is that when something hurts me, i don't talk about it. i go quiet. i overthink. i become distant. i don't know how to say you hurt me without feeling like i'm begging to be understood. so i keep it to myself and hope you notice the change. i replay everything in my head and blame myself for feeling too much. i wish i knew how to speak without shaking, and how to explain my pain without feeling weak. but i'm still learning that my feelings matter and deserve to be heard, too.