No one tries to control a situation more than the people who already know they are guilty. And they don't just try to control the situation, they slowly start trying to control you too. They will tell you how you should feel and what you should not take personally. They will explain which things you should let go and which ones you should simply forget. They will even tell you how things happened and what you should or shouldn't remember. Basically, they will give instructions about everything you should do or not do. Everything except the one simple thing, accepting their own mistake. So no matter how clearly you mention the issue, they keep distracting, twisting and redirecting the conversation. And if you still don't give up, congratulations, you are suddenly the villain and they are the fragile victim of your "attitude."