Apparently it's a "good" relationship when one speaks and the other just listens. When one decides and the other follows, no questions asked, no voice needed. When one yells and the other stays quiet, like silence is some kind of virtue. When one blames and the other accepts it, just to keep things from exploding. And suddenly it becomes a "bad" relationship then the quiet one starts speaking. Not the control, not the blame, not the constant dismissal, that's never the issue. But the moment tolerance ends and it's called out, that's where the real problem begins. Because not it's uncomfortable, now it's inconvenient, now it can't be ignored. And it's been normalized now, like "why speak up when you tolerated it for so long?" The answer is simple, they just don't want to anymore, they're done with it. But no one ever questions the one who made them tolerate it. It's never the actions, the audacity, or the cruelty that gets addressed. For them, it's always about the reaction, never the reason behind it.