the right man will change the habits that bother you. he won't say, "that's just who i am," or make you feel like you are asking for too much. he will try to understand why something hurts you and do what he can to make it right. he will notice what upsets you and slowly change, not because you forced him to, but because he wants you to feel loved and respected. he will remember what makes you uncomfortable and try to do better. he will change not because you asked him to, but because he wants to grow with you.