Thanks Tiana, this is really helpful advice 🙏❤️

He has so many qualities that I like but he drinks. Sometimes he’ll have a drink in the morning and doesn’t see it as a problem. To be honest, it’s a really big turn off. He speaks several languages, is kind, likes my family, cares about me but as a daughter, granddaughter and niece of alcoholics, this one ‘fault’, really tips the scales for me. I’ve spoken to him about it but he refuses to see it as a problem.

Thanks Matěj, he has so many incredible qualities that I love and the ‘good’ list is way longer than the ‘bad’ list, but it’s something that’s none negotiable for me. He drinks & doesn’t see it as being an issue. I hate smelling alcohol on his breath first thing in the morning and although he’s functioning, it’s incredibly unattractive for me and I don’t feel safe. I don’t feel safe being with someone who needs to drink alcohol to function. That is not an attack on him as he’s one of the most loveliest people I know. But it’s not how I want my life to be. Not sure if this makes me a bad person. I’ve spoken to him bit he doesn’t want to admit he has a problem.