Date people in the same emotional bracket as you... Because if you have learned how to communicate, regulate, self-reflect and they haven't you're not in a relationship, you're in a repair cycle. You'll end up explaining basic things like how to not shut down during conflict, or how caring doesn't mean control. It's not about being "deep." It's about being compatible in how you handle hard things. Same emotional tools. Same emotional language. Otherwise it's just you doing all the heavy lifting and calling it love.