You’re right Olivia, it’s not easy at all! A mantra I use is “feel the fear & do it anyway”, or that “the universe rewards courage”. Further, sometimes even while we have fear, the temptation to try & get closer exists simultaneously, resulting us in taking baby steps. As someone with trauma, I am kind of used to having this push & pull within myself. It is frustrating and confusing, but alas, it is what it is.

When the desire for connection outweighs fear, it’s a sign of healing and growth. Taking that leap isn’t easy, but it means you’re opening yourself up to new possibilities, and that’s something to be proud of!

True but also how can we manage our fear of loss or getting hurt? Sometimes no matter how much you need someone or are attracted to them, it’s hard to get out of the fear of previous experiences… how would you say we get past those?