you're tired because she keeps bringing up the same problem? then imagine how tiring it is for her to keep carrying the same pain. most people don't repeat things because they like arguing. they repeat them because the hurt was never really heard. when someone feels understood, the conversation slowly becomes calmer. but when the pain stays the same, the words keep coming back, hoping this time they will finally be understood. what sounds like "the same problem again" is often just a heart asking to be taken seriously. sometimes the argument doesn't end until the pain behind it is finally seen and understood.