What Emma said! Plus, trust your gut. Do not negotiate your needs. If he’s not prepared to or mature enough to have these conversations and show up, then goodbye is a beautiful word.

Hi Micaella, I think being in any relationship without clear, honest and kind boundaries is challenging. I would suggest firstly, figuring out what your core needs & boundaries are & figuring out if he is prepared to or willing to meet them. This is non negotiable for you, if your core needs are not met, in any type of relationship, you will be unhappy. If you see that he is not prepared to do this, then why meet for a coffee? If he is prepared to invest in you & the relationship & step up, then no harm in talking with him.