you're not in love with her. if hurting her feelings doesn't hurt you too, you're not in love with her. if her silence after a fight doesn't bother you or make you want to fix things, you're not in love with her. if seeing her cry doesn't make your heart ache or make you want to hold her and comfort her, you're not in love with her. if you care more about being right than about how she feels, you're not in love with her. real love makes you care even when you're angry. it makes you want to make things better. if her pain doesn't move you, you're not in love with her.