Some people make you feel safe enough to express your teelings without holding them in. They create room tor your emotions, the positive and negative ones, so that you don't feel like you must have it together all the time. These people help you unlearn what you've carried so far —the knowledge that if you ask for more, you will be told you're asking for too much. If you share your feeling hurt, you will be told you're too sensitive. If you express your anger at them, you'll be met with absence. Some people will remind you that what you're feeling counts and that they care enough to acknowledge and act upon it. They will help you see that when you're in a real relationship, you feel safe and sure enough to show up as you are, without feeling the need to alter yourself.