A secure woman isn't worrying about how her creator has made her; she's embodying her flaws and finding beauty in all faults; she's committed to making her aura and energy the most beautiful things about her. Of course, they attempted to take you down; you're one of the most secure women you will ever encounter. Maturing is understanding certain people will thrive from your misery; protecting your peace is the new luxury and if removing yourself from circumstances that no longer serve you is called 'childish' or 'selfish' then so be it. But if you're able to remove yourself from any table, circle, or circumstance that no longer serves your purpose - understand you have achieved a level of peace many in this life crave.