You don't have to mold yourself into someone you don't want to be just to please others. Your ability to meet another person's every need or desire doesn't dictate how valuable or lovable you are. You already carry so many beautiful traits and contribute so much to your relationships. Whoever is fixating on your imperfections to the point of trying to change the core of who you are is too focused on projecting their own wounds, fears, and insecurities to appreciate you. All of the nitpicking rarely has anything to do with you.