Some people see a damaged person and think, wow, how strong, spirited and bold they are. They went through so much and still didn't give up, tolerated so much and still kept their goodness intact. Still able to love with all their heart after everything, how amazing. And then, they quietly think, let me test them too. If they tolerated so much already, they will tolerate a little more from me as well. Sad, but true, most people see strength in you as your capacity to accept their crap. They don't think about giving you the love you deserve, they think about how they can bene/it from it. To them you are not a person healing, you are just damaged goods they can use. They will keep telling you they love you, because they know that's enough for you to love them genuinely. But they don't actually love you. They just love the idea of being loved by you. Even they know that someone who has been genuinely loved all their life would quickly see through their game. But someone who was never loved properly may crave it so deeply that they settle for scraps.