a healthy relationship, for me, isn't perfect. it's not always soft or easy, it's a place where we don't always say the right things, because there's a room for mistake and growth. it's us choosing each other, even on the days when the relationship feels like falling apart. it's us being honest without hurting one another, without tearing down what we have. it's love without control, where arguments don't turn into battles. it's them or me saying "im hurt" instead of pretending we're okay, a love that actually listens. it's being with someone who doesn't make me guess if they care, i know they just do. someone who doesn't punish me for feeling things deeply. someone who wants to grow with me, not someone who wants me to stay the same just to keep the peace. the reality is, even in a healthy relationship, there are misunderstandings, insecurities, and hard moments. but we try. we listen. we work through the things that hurt instead of running from them. because for me, love is not perfection, but effort, respect, patience, and choosing each other again and again.