I once read a question that said: "If you could tell your parents something before you were born, what would it be?" And someone replied, "Please heal yourself, so I don't spend my whole life healing from you." That line. it shattered something in me. Because so many of us are still trying to love with wounds we never asked for. We grow up learning to forgive people who never said sorry. We spend years trying to unlearn what pain taught us too early. So if you ever become someone's parent - heal first. Break the pattern. So your child doesn't have to spend their life recovering from your scars.