Choose the gentle one. Choose the person who is kind to you, especially when life gets hard. The one who talks to you softly, listens to your feelings, and never makes you feel bad for being emotional. Life is already tiring enough, so love should feel peaceful, not painful. A gentle person will not embarrass you, shout at you, or make you cry just because they are angry. They will care about your feelings and try not to hurt you. So choose someone who brings peace into your life, not someone who makes your heart feel heavy every day.