You're not attracted to an emotionally unavailable person, you're attracted to the possibility they brought about, the hope they triggered, and the promise they sparked. Unavailable people choose distance, reject vulnerability, and refuse to be known. They conceal who they are. You rarely know enough about them to determine whether they are right for you. You're not chasing them-you're chasing your needs they can't meet. Once you separate your hopes and daydreams from a person, their allure often fades. You realize they are not that special-the value you place on them is what makes them special. They can possess all the beautiful qualities in the world, but it doesn't matter if they aren't willing to share them with you.