Yes, I can relate. Mother/ daughter relationships can be very complicated and I think more needs to said about them. From my experience, embrace who you are and accept who she is. That does not mean tolerated bad behavior, rather stregthening your boundaries. Work on self validation rather than seeking it from her. She may not be the mom you want or need, but she’s the one you’ve got, so try to see it for what it is, and build the life you want in gratitude. I have a better relationship with my mom now but I don’t expect her to be anything she’s not nor offer things she can’t, I find other ways to get that and I’ve learnt to forgive her. It’s take a lot of work!! But it’s possible, start small 🧡