we're not the same. i got upset over your actions, you got upset over my response to your actions. you never looked at what you did, you only looked at how i reacted. you focused on my tone, not on the pain you caused. you cared more about how i expressed my feelings than the reason i had them. you acted like my emotions were the problem, instead of seeing how your actions pushed me to that point. so no, we're not the same. because i was trying to fix things while you were trying to avoid responsibility. and that's where everything slowly fell apart.